What To Say?
So you know where and when to talk to your kids, but what do you say?
Start the conversations by telling your kids you love them and you want what is best for them. Starting tough conversations can be hard. By using events that happen in your life, you can make it just a little easier.
At the start of the school year talk about what to expect during the upcoming year; in terms of both the general changes of a new grade level but also with other risky behaviors.
Instead of just asking how your child's day was, ask specifics like "are there a lot of cliques at school?" or "tell me more about what you are working on in chemistry" or "how do you think you'll do in the competition/match/game this weekend?".
If a specific situation arises with fellow students in your child's school, take that opportunity to ask a few questions to see if your child has any potential involvement and then share your expectations.
If there's a big event coming up use that to talk about what situations your son or daughter could potentially find themselves in, what your expectations are and how they could get out of an uncomfortable situation.